It amazes me when I hear people complain about intimate relationships, friendships and jobs but when I ask what are you offering? I get a mediocre response.
How do you expect anyone to take you seriously when you have nothing worth substance to show for yourself? Now don’t get me wrong we all go through different hardships in these categories however it doesn’t mean you have to stay with a “Debbie downer” attitude either.
In an intimate relationship, you have your needs and wants in a mate. It can be looks, financial stability, work ethics, family oriented, share same religious beliefs etc but what do you show about yourself? Are you representing the same qualities of perfection that you desire? If the answer is “no” than maybe you need to take the time to work on yourself. It makes no sense to have high expectations for a mate when you are failing to do so for yourself.
Friendships just like any relationship is a two way street. To get respect you have to earn it. People will say in a heart beat that they have no friends or want friends but they push people away. Maybe social skills are lacking, maybe it’s a personality thing, whatever is the “reason” for giving others the cold shoulder, make sure you remain mad at yourself. It falls on you if you don’t want to communicate. It’s on you if haven’t found the “perfect” friend.
Jobs can be boring, stressful and fun(especially if your the owner) and many of us are not in our field of study. However, if you are constantly late, missing deadlines, being suspended, being absent and insubordinate, I really hope you don’t expect your boss to give you a raise or promotion. What are you offering for advancement? The work ethics just previously listed would get anyone terminated. If you were a boss, would you hire You??
Think about these things friends. If u feel u fall into any of these categories there is a will and a way to get better. I am here if anyone wants to chat privately.
Nikki Rob., MA