respect

Parents get to KNOW your kids

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As a parent, we do our best to raise our kids to be decent individuals. Even though there are tons of books on parenting, it’s just a role that you have to learn once your in it.

Some of the biggest mistakes that parents make is set the idea of who their child is in their heads versus learning who their child really is. Parents can have the thought that their child will get high marks in school like they did or become that all-star athlete like they were and it’s not fair. Parents also raise their children to be a certain way, obtain certain values and when that child goes astray, we sit and wonder “why?”.

Please do not take this post as me saying that we can’t set rules and the tone for the upbringing of our children. My point is that a certain point in the adolescent/young adult stage, we need to communicate with our kids. We need to understand their voice, likes/dislikes, how they see the world and thoughts about love, etc. Once this happens, your son or daughter will present their true selves to you. It doesn’t mean we have to agree or even like it, but we do have to show Respect to them.

Thank you for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

The Basics.. Respect

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Hi Friends! Happy NYE!!!!!

We are this close to saying goodbye to 2018 and hello to 2019! I pray that you all have a safe evening and your new year kicks off to a good start.

Respect. We all chat about it and need to have it. Many have the philosophy that respect should be given while others believe that respect is earned. I believe it’s both.

As a fellow Human being I believe we should respect each other. Meaning, I should respect your space, family dynamics, culture, physical capabilities etc. Our society has gotten to a place where people can’t be themselves without someone being out of order. Many people have a target on their back just for “looking” different or being different from the marginal lines and it really sucks. So in order for you to respect me, I need to respect you as well.

On the contrary, I do believe respecting someone as an individual is to be Earned. How is this different from respecting a person as a human being? When we respect someone as a human being, that’s the outer surface. To respect someone as an individual, We have to find out about their inner surface such as their character and demeanor. Regardless of what position this person holds in our lives, it could be Family, Friends, coworkers, bosses, religious leaders and even political leaders. We view their actions, are they trustworthy? Honest? Compassionate? Or are they mean-spirited? Uncommitted? Liars? These are just few ways Respect is Earned or not Earned.

One of my hopes for the new year is that we can do better as a whole and of course individually. Let us plant these seeds for our youth so that they can be Better than Us.

Thank you for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Fear No One

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There comes a time in life when you have to stand up for yourself and put fear aside. Many people will use their power to control people. I can admit, whenever I’ve dealt with anyone above me, there was this sense of nervousness. Some people I felt were even Bullies… It didn’t change until one of my superiors told me one day, “I’m human like you”.

Hearing those words made me realize that the “higher ups” and powerful people do cry, they do have worries, they do experience Defeat. Meanwhile, I just always assumed their Life was GRAND. That was day I also told myself to only Fear God.period.

I share this because we need to remember: No One should hold fear in our hearts. Your superiors, rather its at home or at work, are to be Respected, Not Feared. These people can get hurt and bleed just like you and me. Never let anyone make you feel as if you are Nothing. You’re worth matters even if it doesn’t seem like it.

Thanks for Reading

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Respect is needed

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Happy Monday!

Something that weighs on my mind constantly is having respect. Many people have plenty of followers and fans, but how many can say that they are truly respected by all?
Respect is earned and it should be given back out, however, with so much negativity in the world, it seems as if that’s non existent. 
I challenge us all to believe differently. We are all human. Yes, we look different, worship and vote differently, but we are still loving creatures with feelings. We should respect each other like we expect to have it in return. If you want change, it has to start with ourselves first.
Thanks for reading!
Nicole Cherise❤️

what you think of you is Your choice 

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  This is very true friends. When I know someone is going through a big dilemma, I asked them, “how do you see yourself?” 
How we view ourselves is the beginning to how others will view us, treat us and the level of respect that will be shown to us. it also reveals how we handle things. 

Don’t believe it? Ok, I challenge you to walk and talk as if you viewed yourself like a Queen or King. See how you feel and how others around you respond after a solid week. Let me know how it goes. Remember yesterday’s message, you have to encourage yourself!

Self love is the best the love!

Nicole Cherise 

Respect in a Marriage

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imagesI’m 29 and will be 30 in July. From reading my blog you will know that I am happily married to my HS sweetheart and we have a beautiful son. Hubby and I have been together since 2000 and when we got married on 8/9/12 and it was the best day of my life. Many couples in my age range are either married or getting married and I’m very happy about that. I believe in marriage and if it were up to me, I would strongly urge couples to do so when they are ready.

Many couples have their own do’s and don’ts when it comes to what should or shouldn’t happen in their marriage. Therefore, what may work for one couple doesn’t necessarily mean it will work for another.
However, with that being said, all couples will agree that Respect in a marriage is needed.
When you are single (not married), you have freedoms and may feel that you don’t have to answer to your significant other, when you get married that changes. Your spouse becomes your equal and a reflection of you. No, I do not believe you should lose your identity just because you have tied the knot, but the happiness of your spouse should be a priority. The moment you place something or someone over your spouse, He or She will feel like they are on a back burner and in some cases possibly abandoned. Those actions will cause friction and resentment which could lead to the “D” word if you allow it to. It doesn’t matter how long you have been married rather it be 5 months or 25 years, when the respect is gone, so is the romance, partnership and last but not least the friendship.

For all newly engaged and married couples, I always give the one piece of advice “REMAIN BEST FRIENDS”. When you view your spouse as a best friend, you will do all you can to assure them that they are loved by you, you will aim to please them and their happiness ultimately makes YOU HAPPY. Respect, in order to get it, you have to give it. It’s a MUST in a MARRIAGE.

Nicole Cherise

If you are a couple that struggles with this, please feel free to email me :nicolecherise723@gmail.com

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