self improvement

Feel Good Fridays: work on self instead of wishing for others production

/ Nicole Cherise / 2 Comments

 Hi all!

Happy Friday! I hope this week was a good one and I hope the weekend is an even better one. You all know that I love Pinterest and the quotes that other post. But this one stuck out. 
The sayings goes “people always believe the grass is always greener on the other side”. I believe the grass is greener where it gets proper nourishment. So when I saw this quote I was too excited because the writer truly nailed it! 
Why should you spend your days worrying about the next person or trying to keep up with the “Jones'”? Work on self and you will reap the benefits. I’m always watching these beautiful models with their awesome physique and then I get down and say I wish it were me. Some I can consider inspiration and I will follow what they are doing to maintain their “perfect” body and once again I’m comparing myself. After a while I have come to the conclusion that if I want to be in better shape, I need to start from within. Earlier this month, I had blood work done and my new doctor called me one night and gave me the run down of everything. I knew my glucose level was probably high, and I have a history of high cholesterol. Therefore, I was extremely nervous to hear my results. To my surprised, I was doing better than I thought! My cholesterol is now considered borderline high, which, when I was 22 it was extremely high and my old physician said I could have a heart attack by 25. My glucose levels are in between but I’m not diabetic, thank God! So, he has me on a 3 month plan to exercise more and choose better food options. I know for myself, I also need to concentrate or stress management. 
Instead of concentrating on other figures of others, I will focus on getting myself healthier. I believe when that happens, so will the physique I wish to have, will come too. Friends, I hope this can be applied to you and in your life. This can be about finances, career, lifestyles and relationships. If you nurture yours, you will see results. Hope this helps! Until next time!
Nicole Cherise 

Where is the love Wednesdays:the necessity to have someone vs improving yourself while being single

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Hi all!

I come across conversations like this often. Would you rather be in relationships that fail all because you don’t like being lonely or would you take the time to better yourself and remain single?

 So much comes along with relationships and one thing to know is that doors should be closed before opening a new one. Many times the reasons why new relationships dissolve quickly are because lessons Not being learned, not being completely over your ex and comparing someone new to your ex. So, if all of these things can happen, why put yourself through the headache and just take your time? The answer is, people don’t want to be lonely. At a certain point in life, no one wants to be the “third wheel” or always single with no date to the invited dinner party. People want someone to share an intimate companionship with a person who isn’t a relative or friend. It just saddens me that people would go through all measures of drama and heartache just all for the sake of saying “I have someone”.

Why not take the time to better yourself? is what I ask. A friends once told me that she took the time to date herself. When I first heard that it made perfect sense. With dating you are learning about the other person. If you date yourself, you are truly taking the time to evaluate yourself. You learn your flaws and strengths; likes and dislikes; you pamper yourself for your self. I advise people often that self love is the best love. There are certain happiness that people expect to get from a potential mate, however, you need to find your own happiness first. When you better yourself, and you meet someone, your life could be at a better place mentally, emotionally and physically. 

What are your thoughts? Do you think it’s easier to be single and rediscover yourself or is it easier to be in a relationship just for the sake to have someone even if you are still damaged?

Nicole Cherise