Tag: self love

No reminders needed…

On the journey of healing, I recognize the importance of loving yourself without the validation or attention from others.

It’s unhealthy to behave in this manner and to believe that if someone isn’t giving you praise, it’s a bad reflection of yourself. My dear friends, WE have to be our OWN best friend, and love ourselves first. It’s ok to have help as a secondary tool but it can’t be the ONLY tool.

It not easy to stop the codependency process but it WILL be worth it in the long run. Let’s continue to uplift one another, continue to do daily affirmations and grow. I’m here for anyone who needs help in their journeys.

As always, thanks for your support!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Doing for You!

Hi Friends! Happy Motivational Monday!

I know it’s been some time since I’ve blogged, but hey, I’m here 😊. Life, has been busy, and I also wasn’t feeling the best. I was battling a chest cold (which I hope is just about gone! 🤞🏾) and it just wiped me out. I hope if any of you might have caught the sniffles that you feel better as well.

This post today will be brief but my intent is for it to give substance. How often do you do for You? Many of us are spouses, parents, professionals, scholars in academia, volunteers for many causes and more. We are constantly on the go, we do so much for others and at times get caught in a whirlwind. This is great, however, do we find the time to schedule some “self” time?

I can admit, I get caught up with my family, friends, and work life that I don’t always make “Me Time”. I know it’s a selfless act, but in the long run, I see how it crashes down. I find myself worrying about unnecessary things in my life, all because I’m consumed in other factors instead of the “Me” factor.

If someone would have said to me 10 years ago that I needed to dedicate more “Me” time, I would have said “Isn’t that being selfish?“. Guess what? It’s ok to be “selfish” for your needs. It can and will make you happier in the meantime and down the road.

What are the things that you do for you? Have you found this to be beneficial? How would you recommend this to others? Let me know in the comments!

As always, thanks for reading friends! 😁

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Feel Good Friday: Love Self!

Happy Friday!!!

Do you remember when you realized you loved You? Yes, you, yourself. Have you accepted you for you and all that it entails? I’m at that point and it feels good.

It’s not easy to do this, but I know that I needed to get to this space because I can’t expect love from others if I don’t possess a love for myself as well. When I say love ourselves that includes the ups and downs, the beautiful and not so beautiful. I know that I’m overall emotional, sensitive (the gift and curse), competitive, stubborn, can be loud, and tend to keep my feelings bottled up until I exploded (oh, not good I know). However, I’m also, loving, honest, loyal, supportive, hardworking and more.

I’m sure many of you share similar characteristics and can relate. So, I ask this question: if we want others to live and accept us as we are, don’t you think we ought to love and accept ourselves as well? I know that I’m growing every day, the many flaws that I have (some I’m sure I forgot to mention lol) I do work on. So, even though I accept and love me, I know the importance of striving to be a better me. I hope and pray you can do the same.

Woo, that felt great! Have a great day everyone and I hope this post helps someone today!

Thanks for reading,

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Note to Self

Dear Nik,

The obstacles are here currently but they won’t stay. Please do the following:

Keep working hard, Continue to keep the family first, and forgive yourself.

Nicole Cherise will prosper, and you will be student loan debt free!

Keep your chin up and shoulders back, because your strut is back! No more dragging or limping your left leg. You Are a MS Survivor.

I know it may not seem like it but with God this is already done. Trust me.

Love Always,

Future You ♥️ (Dr. Nicole Cherise)

Fear No One

There comes a time in life when you have to stand up for yourself and put fear aside. Many people will use their power to control people. I can admit, whenever I’ve dealt with anyone above me, there was this sense of nervousness. Some people I felt were even Bullies… It didn’t change until one of my superiors told me one day, “I’m human like you”.

Hearing those words made me realize that the “higher ups” and powerful people do cry, they do have worries, they do experience Defeat. Meanwhile, I just always assumed their Life was GRAND. That was day I also told myself to only Fear God.period.

I share this because we need to remember: No One should hold fear in our hearts. Your superiors, rather its at home or at work, are to be Respected, Not Feared. These people can get hurt and bleed just like you and me. Never let anyone make you feel as if you are Nothing. You’re worth matters even if it doesn’t seem like it.

Thanks for Reading

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Take a Breather…

Hi Friends!

With all the hustle and bustle that we all have going on, sometimes we have to remember to slow down. When we are constantly on the go, with no pauses, it can bring out a lot of anxiety. Therefore, take a breather or a moment to woooo saaaa!

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No worries friends, you got this!! Take that extra time for the snooze button, take a two minute walk, meditate/ pray, blow bubbles! Do what it takes to help, YOURSELF!

Thanks for Reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️