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Feel good Friday’s : thoughts on my recent 30th birthday and thoughts of where we “should” be in life.

Hi all!!

So on yesterday, July 23rd, I turned 30 years old. In the past, the older I turned, I either was emotional because I felt I wasn’t where I was “suppose” to be or extremely excited. As I looked in the mirror yesterday I said to myself that I didn’t look a day over 25! Lol so my face was in constant bliss.  

 A few days before, a coworker said to me, “Nikki at 30, you have accomplished so much. You are married, have a son, job and your own place. Much better than it was for me when I turned 30. I just thought I’d be in a different place in life”. This “place” in life and where we are “supposed” to be is difficult and is not fair to ourselves.

I’ve done this  when I turned 25. I was sad because I felt that things weren’t mapped out like I wanted them to be and life was a tornado in my head. I wasn’t engaged yet ( Steve proposed that Christmas), still lived at home, not the career I wanted, and was recently diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. However, as time went on I realized that everything happened for a reason. Things also fall into place when they are supposed to. People jump into marriages, live together, have children or constantly make compulsive decisions all because it’s what they believe they should do but not necessarily ready for. We get pressure from family, friends, society and ourselves when we should just relax and let things happen naturally. Now don’t get me wrong, do I believe it’s wrong to have plans and goals? No not at all, you should strive for greatness, but don’t beat yourself up about it. 

So I say this in close, things will happen at the right time. It may not be YOUR “perfect” time but it will come. In the mean time, love yourself and what you have now!

  
Nicole Cherise